Emery & Dylan: Our Unexpected Journey

This is the first update on our journey with our twin girls so far. One that the doctors are not hopeful about, but one we believe will be a testimony to the miraculous works of our Father God. The doctors come with many facts; many facts you can’t ignore. But, we stand on the Truth of God’s Word knowing that he can do exceedingly above all we can ask, think, or even imagine. He is the true healer. We want all of you to be a part of this journey with us as and stand with us for our girls and watching a miracle of wholeness take place.

Here’s our first update:

Friday, February the 13th, my husband (Kalen) and I were at Harris Downtown in Labor and Delivery, per our midwife and doula’s instruction. I had been leaking fluid off and on for a couple of hours and they needed me to get an immediate sonogram. As it turns out, my membranes had ruptured on Baby B’s (or Emery’s) sac and her amniotic fluid was low. It was still in a range that was healthy, but the fact my water had broken now initiated a lot more risks and new protocols.

Being that I was 17 weeks along at this time, there was nothing they could do, but send me home. However, this came with a slew of very traumatic realities thrown our way. First, we were advised to terminate. Uh, no. Next option please. The doctor said I was at risk now for going into labor within the next 24-72 hours  and the chances of only having one baby and keeping the other one inside would be slim this early in the pregnancy. Neither baby would survive outside the womb. I was also told to watch for bleeding, cramping, and a fever over 100.4 which would all be indicative of infection and harmful to me as the mother; at which point he would not ask questions but induce labor to save my life, again, meaning my girls wouldn’t live. If I made it to Wednesday with none of those things happening, then they would recheck Emery’s fluid levels.

It IS possible for wombs to reseal, but if Emery’s fluid level remained low, I  would continue monitoring, be placed on bed rest, watch for signs of infection, and hopefully make it to 22 weeks. At 22 weeks, the next step (in his opinion) was that I would be admitted into the hospital to finish out my pregnancy. He told us this “was necessary because once membranes have ruptured, you can go into labor at any time and VERY quickly and must be close to a neo-natal team.” At 24-25 weeks, the chances of survival are low. It is possible, but not without many long term complications. By 28 weeks, the chances of survival and health go up to 95%. Best case scenario, they try to get me to 34 weeks, at which point they induce. The babies are considered more than capable of survival and keeping them in any longer at that stage isn’t necessary. However, another bump in the road is Emery’s lungs. They not only have to mature, but must have the propensity for essential volume (meaning how much air they can take in). If Emery’s fluid remains too low the entire time, even with steroids, her lungs could have the maturity of a 34 weeker, but only the volume capacity of a 22 weeker-which means, there would be little chance she would survive on her own. A lot of information? Believe me, we got this in one 15 minute sitting, with a doctor who wasn’t hopeful and a “reality” that came so suddenly. I am so thankful my doula was there and my midwife was on speaker. We also had an amazing nurse who was a believer. Everytime the doctor came with death words, we had a 3 on 1 rebuking the words and replacing them with LIFE! Harris Downtown is the best option as far as skill and having the best NICU, but we are switching to a different doctor that is more aligned with life and hope.

My midwife and doula really encouraged me that sacs can reseal, that women leak all the time, and that rest is the best thing. They also told me that it was okay to grieve and have moments because this was very traumatic. My doctor assured me that it was nothing I had done, but that this was just a risk with twins.

We were going to do a gender reveal party to find out WHO was inside, but under the circumstances, Kalen and I needed to know because we needed to be praying right into their identities, by name.


Dylan Tatum means “Great Wave of Joy” (Baby A). We always felt like Dylan was our little warrior, strong physically, and maybe even a little on the wild side which is evidenced by her constant somersaults on sono. We felt like she would be the bigger twin and/or would come first.

Emery Olivia means “Brave and Powerful Peace”.  Emery is also strong and a warrior, but as we prayed for names and the Lord gave us this one, we knew her strength was more internal; a quiet, steady strength. We believe she carries an innate sense of identity and who she is. We also felt like she would be the second one out and the smaller of the two.

Turns out our Dylan is on the bottom creating a protective barrier, and acting as a support for Emery who’s on top of her sister and higher in my uterus. This is a positive.

From Saturday to Wednesday I rested, we were at peace, with no fear. It was a strange peace that can only be deemed supernatural but we also knew we needed a miracle because at this early stage both our girls were at risk. I had experienced no leaking since Saturday morning (the doctor told me I would NOT stop leaking), and things were looking promising.

Wednesday came around and we were still at peace but oh so ready for great news. I have to say, Wednesday was harder than Friday. Dylan was swimming in an ocean of amniotic fluid (they are both in separate sacs with their own placentas; this is supposed to be the healthiest type of twins), and Emery looked like she was in a desert. She only had 1 cm of fluid around her and 2 cm is considered really low. I was so heartbroken, and I felt so helpless. Kalen and I left very discouraged, but not hopeless.

My girls are literally inside of me, a part of me, and there is nothing I can do. So close, yet so far away. Dylan’s sac had moved around even more creating a barrier, which is good news for keeping out infection. This could also be the reason why I’m not leaking anymore. We will go back in two weeks (20 weeks), and at that point our new doctor will check her growth and fluid level. It is encouraging that Emery has a bladder, which means she will keep peeing and, along with my body, she will continue to make fluid. However, the fact still stands, it might not be enough for her to sustain life unattached from me. Otherwise, baby girl has a strong heartbeat and looks good.

I am so thankful for my midwife and doula who are VERY confident that my sac can seal and that fluid can reaccumulate. However, that means I am on more bed rest for two weeks and drinking a gallon of water+ a day which has been shown to help.

So what are we looking at? 

Right now, I’m on bed rest. COMPLETE bed rest, minus a shower, going to the bathroom, and getting breakfast. I’m allowed to do some gentle yoga/stretching because my body hurts from laying all day. Gallons of water. And waiting. And praying. And waiting. And praying.

What we need?

A COMPLETE miracle. Which is not impossible for our God. In two weeks, Emery’s fluid needs to triple, her growth needs to have shown signs of improvement, indicating that her sac has sealed itself. This is the best possible thing that could happen. God is the God of MUCH MORE, and we are believing for that. We are believing for HIS best for our whole family, especially Emery.

This is a journey I don’t think anyone who has been in this position thinks they could, or would face. It’s hard. It’s scary. It’s helpless. It means 150% trust in Jesus, in other words, all you have. It means, trying to find the balance between not being ignorant and being aware of what you’re facing, yet knowing GOD trumps all fact. All “impossiblities” become possible with Him.

We will continue to update you on our journey as we walk it out.

We ask that you stand with us from a place of PEACE and rest and for the miracle work of Jesus and for His best in this situation. We ask that you continue to thank God with us for Emery’s complete wholeness and thriving life; nothing less.

These are scriptures the Lord has given us to stand on in this time. I will put them here because where two or three are gathered in his name, He is here among us. (Matthew 18:20)

Thank you for standing with us in agreement.

Jeremiah 29:11

Psalm 121:1-8

Ephesians 3:20

Lamentations 3:22-23

Hebrews 6:17-20

Romans 5:1-5

Isaiah 43:1-7

 

 

 

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19 thoughts on “Emery & Dylan: Our Unexpected Journey

  1. Hey Beautiful and Brave Mama,
    Thank you so much for sharing how we can be praying for your wonderfully made girls! I have been in a very similar place when pregnant with my twins and know to be praying daily for y’all! I’m standing with you and believing in a GREAT miracle! I KNOW it is beyond possible with our loving Father. Keep off those feet and know you’re covered in prayer daily!!
    Meredith Richards

  2. Positive vibes going your way! You are so strong and that’s why you have two little warriors growing inside you. Be strong and know your family are in my thoughts and prayers.💐

  3. My daughter, Caroline, had three strokes that were complete dissections at age 25. She should have died, or at best been in a vegetative state. Praying, speaking complete healing this side of heaven and knowing and feeling that the Lord was standing for her and for me got us through. She is still doing rehab, but has made such a great recovery and is working on her fourth semester masters degree to obtain her principal certification. I know you’re in a vulnerable situation with them inside of you, but as a mommy, that feeling doesn’t change much when they are outside. She will always feel like a part of me. I hope our story gives you hope. I will be praying for you and yours. Remember where it says, Be still and know that I am God? Maybe make that your mantra while you are being still to bring more life. Hugs.

  4. I don’t know you but I wish you nothing but peace and healing for your family. God is great and through Him all things are possible.

  5. Saw this link posted by Paige Collins’ Facebook… From the start these two beautiful GIRLS are miracles. They already are. Hope is your/their anchor. You’re so strong, if anybody could mother these two with life giving love, it’s you. If anyone could lead them in faith, peace, and protection with authority as a father, it’s Kalen. We believe He is healer, and He holds your world – those precious beautiful twin girls – in His hands and YOU will hold them in your arms for years to come. Love you.

  6. Praying for you!! My fluid was low with my first and drinking a gallon of water really helped and with my 2nd my water broke but resealed a few days later so there is hope!!! Praying for your babies and you.

  7. Reading your post, the first scripture that came to mind is, Who’s report will we believe? We will believe the report of the Lord! Will be praying for you and your twins

  8. You don’t know me, a friend shared this, but as a sister in Christ I believe the God of healing, with you, who not only does heal but who He is is Life and true Wholeness, completeness. I bless you, your family, and Dylan and Emery in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He is your Savior, your peace, and your Father…He works all things together for good, according to His purpose, in Christ Jesus our Lord.

  9. I read a beautiful story just today about a woman’s whose dr had nothing but devastating news about her unborn son and advised her to abort. Her and her husband cancelled the diagnosis and stood on the promises of God and spoke life over the baby.. Guess what?? Baby was completely healed in the womb and when he was born the nurse said she had never seen a more perfectly healthy baby. We cancel any assignment the enemy is trying to achieve and we speak life!! Thru the authority given us through Christ Jesus! It is finished!

  10. I shared this in Virginia. People are praying for the Dermott warrior girls. God has said this will be done with many people praying in unity. Looking forward to hearing the continuation of this God story!

  11. Praying for you and your girls, Emery & Dylan from Costa Rica. We know God is listening from everywhere in the Universe. All good things for you and the family. Your parents are dear friends and we love and respect them. May God hold you all in his loving, healing arms!

  12. I read this today and thought of you:
    Psalm 22: 30-31 Our children and their children
    will get in on this
    As the word is passed along
    from parent to child.
    Babies not yet conceived
    will hear the good news —
    that God does what he says.

    Love you so

  13. I saw your post on facebook (I went to HS with Kalen). My heart and my prayers go out to you and your sweet family. My husband and I are pregnant now with our first daughter. It was a long journey after losing 2 precious babies last January and last May. I know what it is like to be told that your baby may not make it after you have loved her with all of your heart. And now I can say I also know what it is like for God to plan for me to hold one of my babies. Keep your hearts fixed on God’s plan for your life. It is not always the same as our plan BUT IT IS SO MUCH SWEETER. He truly knows what He is doing and I pray for each of you to be wrapped in the palms of His loving and healing hands as you journey through being amazing parents of these 2 girls.

  14. Praying for continual peace amongst you and your family! I can sense there is peace even in your writing style but I also know as humans, that can change if we decide to give into fear. I must say, even just being somewhat “re-united” with you (Caitlin) as friends through Facebook and Instagram, I can see that you and your husband are such a strong couple and you stand so firm on His promises. That has been such an encouragement to me. I pray He blesses you both with TWO beautiful babies and that this story, too, shall be a testimony to all, showing His goodness. Peace and love Be with you!

  15. I know both of your families and you are all warriors! God created our bodies so beautifully. Never believe the bad news continue to stand on the word of the Lord! I am excited to hear of the miracles ahead and the testimonies that will come from the miracle of these 2 little gifts! My prayers are with all of you!

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